If anything, it's the harshest.
For some people, harsh lessons break them down.
For others, they serve as wake-up calls; but that's by-the-way.
When you have negative experiences, for instance, you become more open to the possibility of negativity. The ideology becomes a reality. If this thought is further entertained, you experience more negativity. It's a cycle, you see.
Your initial exposure becomes your only guide to escaping your current state.
Experience is not the best teacher. It only teaches you how NOT TO handle a particular situation should it occur again; and IT WILL occur again if you hold it in your thoughts.
The experience did not teach you anything new. It simply conditioned your mindset to reenact an event over and over and over again, each time giving you the options to act, think, and speak differently.
Think of it as taking the same test every semester. You will definitely begin to score 100% all the time because you've seen everything there is to see on this particular test. This is quite a comfortable position to be in. What you've failed to realize, however, is that if you're taking the same test, then you're not learning anything new and you're repeating the same class!
Has repeating an event in this case helped you? NO, it has limited you. In for many people, in their myopic mindsets, the world is no different from that one test and "all men are the same". :D
You then become biased, skewed, and cynical, based on something you may or may not have had a hand in determining its outcome.
On a side note, I must congratulate you - sarcastically though, however, on being an expert in welcoming and handling unpleasant experiences; kinda like the boy who does a great job at failing every single quiz at school and doesn't care what anyone else thinks.
We hold on to our bad experiences and don't even try to live a successful life - the very one we dream about each night when we cry ourselves to sleep having thought about a failed day - because it only makes sense to us that "if it happened once, referring to a bad event, it will happen again".
In believing this fallacy, we fail to see how the thought process we call logical breaks the very foundations of hope, trust, and faith.
If I picked an apple from the store and found worms in it, should I live every other day of my life scared of picking worm-infested apples? BY NO MEANS!
Experience teaches that you should "prepare for the best BUT EXPECT THE WORST".
Have you not read in sacred scriptures where it is written, "But he must ask in faith, WITHOUT DOUBTING, because he who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. THAT MAN SHOULD NOT EXPECT TO RECEIVE ANYTHING FROM THE LORD. He is a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways." - James 1:6-8?
God says "TRUST IN ME. Lean not on your own understanding. In all of your ways, acknowledge me and I'll make your path straight." - Proverbs 3:4-5.
From how many people will you hear the words "THINK POSITIVELY" before you finally let it sink?!
Or do I need to point out to you that the only difference between Judas' betrayal and Peter's denial was that Peter repented while Judas, focusing on the gravity of his offence, failed to look upon the Goodness of God, and in reliving - in his thoughts - his sinful decision to betray Jesus ended his life in suicide?
What if your current situation could be turned around by one positive thought; by trusting in God? Have you ever thought of that?!
No matter the experience: negativity, failure, condemnation, criticism, vices, slander, calumny, scandals, regret, hatred, heartbreak, defeat, rejection, pain, trauma, revenge, losing a loved one, and sin... IT DOESN'T DEFINE YOU!
What defines you is whether or not you choose to sit on your butt telling yourself "it has happened before, and it will happen again; there's nothing I can do about it. I better be ready for when this happens again".
There's only one of two things you can be in life:
a mediocre and obscure failure, or an EXPLOSIVE SUCCESS!
Both of which depend on what you feed your mind with and who you trust in.
You life should not be hinged on dark skies and cold nights. No.
Experience is a slave master, enslaving you with the help of your own mind, and until you learn to LET GO AND LET GOD TAKE CONTROL... you'll never enjoy the life you were meant to live!
So what will you do today? Cut loose those pessimistic friends? Focus on less negative media? Read more inspiring books? Read more of the Bible? Pray more? Hang around more positive-minded folks?
Whatever you gotta do mehn! You know your own weaknesses.
In the end, all that truly matters is God and Love, not some false-prophet lyricist spitting rhyming negativity over your S.W.A.G. life (Saved With Anointed Grace. Lolx)!
Happy Sunday! :)